This involves my 2 classmates, Sam and Kit. As Kit joined
our class in-between the semester, where the rest already known each other, he
was a new student in class. Seeming like a friendly guy, we went to talk to
him. After introductions, he admitted that he has low Emotional Quotient. He
also mentioned that previously in his studies, the class hasn’t been very good
to him, causing him to be ostracized, resulting in bad result. However, after
our observations, we realize he lacked situation awareness, tact and a very
poor English foundation.
Due to his age, we felt pity for him and decided to help him
out to finish his studies. Sam being a nice guy, found it hard to reject Kit’s
advances even though where Sam has yet to complete his own work. So, over time,
Kit just handed his poorly done work to Sam and Sam would redo it for him.
So, after multiple occasions, Sam knew he had to do his work
first so he wasn’t able to help Kit. Kit took this negatively due to his lack
of situation awareness. He thought that Sam was sick of doing his work for him
and lied to him. He probably felt annoyed and thought it was the same as what
the other class did to him, this being the first step, refusing the help and
then finally ostracizing him, fueling his hatred and anger towards Sam.
So during peer evaluation, Kit was tasked to evaluate Sam. However, due to the previous incident that Sam couldn’t help Kit, he evaluated Sam badly, thus causing Sam’s result in that module. Sam flared up and argued with Kit, the argument didn’t stop. It went onto Facebook and Sam was determined to make sure the class knows what happened. Using social media, he got his aim and Kit was then ostracized again.
So during peer evaluation, Kit was tasked to evaluate Sam. However, due to the previous incident that Sam couldn’t help Kit, he evaluated Sam badly, thus causing Sam’s result in that module. Sam flared up and argued with Kit, the argument didn’t stop. It went onto Facebook and Sam was determined to make sure the class knows what happened. Using social media, he got his aim and Kit was then ostracized again.
In my opinion, Sam could have taught and encouraged Kit on
how to edit his work and improve it rather than doing it for him. Kit on the
other hand should understand that no one is obligated to help him and he should
be grateful that Sam is helping. If you need somebody’s help, you should be
more understanding. As the proverb goes, “give a man a fish you feed him for a
day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime. It is more worthwhile
to teach someone something than to do it for them.
So readers, if you were in Sam’s position what would you
have done?
